PLAY BY THE RULES OF PLEASURE ….
Everyone wants their partner to feel satisfied, to see the fire in their eyes, burning inside, and the ache from the scratch marks. But sometimes things may not work as you planned. So if you want to increase the odds to see your partner achieve the “BIG O”, you can follow my tips below.
BEFORE YOU GO DIRECTLY TO THE TIPS, YOU HAVE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE FACTS OF FEMALE ORGASM!!!
- ORGASMS ARE UNIQUE FOR EVERYONE!
The most important thing that we should never forget is, orgasms are unique. They don’t have to be similar to anybody else’s. One may pass out from the excitement and one may feel just relieved.
- YOU HAVE TO BE PATIENT!
Everybody’s orgasms can be different and can take longer than you expected. So BE PATIENT and give some time to your partner. If she never had an orgasm with a partner before, you can encourage her to play with herself freely without hesitation when she is with you. The reason might be that she had never felt comfortable before with someone else, so make her feel like she is in her territory/in her comfort zone with you.
Most importantly, this doesn't mean that; handing over the job to her, keep trying, and NEVER GIVE UP!
- IT IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT THAN PORN!
Don’t lie, we all know each and every one of us watches porn. They are screaming, shouting, and going crazy but as I told you before orgasms can be different for everyone. If your partner doesn’t scream, it doesn’t mean that they haven't had an orgasm, or in other ways, if they are screaming it may not be because they had the pleasure (we all know how to; fake it until you make it!). Unfortunately, I cannot give you the tips for pointing out fake orgasms because we know how to do it well.
So take a look at the tips that work for most of the women.
8 TIPS
- Foreplay Foreplay Foreplay: Keep the foreplay as long as possible. Make her ready, before you start intercourse. It is not an obligation but think like it is heating up for the upcoming great pleasures.
- Try Cunilingus: It is so common that some women may not achieve physical orgasm. Although it is totally normal, you can try clitoral stimulation for her.
- Hand & Mouth: So other than using just your mouth make sure to dig in. Don’t act like a princess it's your meal, you have to stimulate your partner both clitorally and vaginally. What I mean is that some people may need to be stimulated by both ways, giving them the chance.
- Try Different Positions: Be crazy, don't hesitate to change the position take some control in hand since your partner might not be able to ask what she needs.
- Make Her Relaxed: As long as there are some intrusive thoughts in her head, she will not be able to focus on her orgasm. That will make it impossible for her to achieve one. Maybe emotional support, dirty talk, or compliments make her feel more comfortable in bed which makes her feel relaxed.
- Give the Control to Her: Sometimes giving the power to her and asking for some directions make her feel more powerful and makes that activity in the control of her hands.
- Fantasy: Learn if she has a fantasy to make. Role-playing, costumes, toys, and so on. So other than realizing sex as an activity, make it an adventure for her. Trying exciting locations can also add some spice and heat up your sexual life.
- She Comes First: You may not be able to continue after cumming with the same performance and usually women require more time to cum. Since we can have multiple orgasms and continue after having one, it would be wiser to help your partner to achieve an orgasm before you do.
So and so for, these tips are all based on both personal experiences and the precious book named “I LOVE FEMALE ORGASM”. Those tips make me have lots and lots of nights full of screams- YES! I am a loud woman :)-
I hope it works out for you as well. If you want to learn more about it you can take a look at the below-mentioned book.
Solot, D., & Miller, M. (2007). I love female orgasm: An extraordinary orgasm guide. Da Capo Lifelong Books.
